New Jersey’s newest self-ordained censor
Rev. Cedric A. Miller has had it with what he says Facebook is doing to couples coming to him for help and is giving his married church leaders until Sunday to get off the social-network website or resign their posts.
Miller…said a large percentage of his counseling over the past year and a half has been for marital problems, including infidelity, stemming from Facebook…There was no problem when people just met with friends from high school in a platonic way.
But that has changed, he said, and now people are reigniting old passions and connecting with people who should stay in the past. He said a marriage can be going along fine when someone from the past breaks through and trouble begins.
“It’s to the point now that this Sunday, anyone in our church in a leadership position and who is married and is on Facebook has to resign their church position if they do not give up Facebook,” said Miller…
“The average citizen is going to see my action as controlling, not that I care about that,” Miller said. “I’m not concerned with being politically correct. I’m trying to save families and marriages…”
“I wouldn’t say Facebook is the problem,” said William Rosenblatt, an Ocean Township psychologist and therapist. “What I would say is we live in a rapidly changing world, and we are facing stresses and opportunities that we’ve never had to face before.
“Facebook doesn’t create dissatisfied marriages,” Rosenblatt continued. “People who are dissatisfied now have better means of creating support systems and networks that are much more vast, and it’s much easier to connect with people that way.
“I would see the pastor’s decree as sort of another example of how, when we as a group are faced with dramatic change, there are three paths people take,” Rosenblatt said.
“One path is we need to go back to the way things were, the conservative path,” he said. “Another group are those who just want to rush ahead and change everything. Then a third group says, let’s not paint this black and white. Let’s be mindful and thoughtful how we do this.”
Another “moderate” preacher in the community says Americans have a right to access to the Internet, but – “Any access to people unfiltered may not be good.”
How many examples do folks need – of paternalistic, patronizing self-aggrandizement from religions several centuries out of date with democracy and freedom – before you walk away?
Do you as an individual feel yourself so ignorant and unlearned about decision-making that you need a friendly neighborhood saviour telling you how to behave, how to manage your personal life?
Do you need a church-based “filter” governing what in the world you are allowed to read or see or hear?
UPDATED: The dude used to get off on 4-ways with his wife + another church “leader” and women from the church. Har!